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How Do Parents Handle a Cyber-Bullying Situation?

ANSWER:

Liz Repking
Cyber Safety Consulting
(630) 936-9103
liz@cybersafetyconsulting.com
www.cybersafetyconsulting.com

How Do Parents Handle a Cyber-Bullying Situation?

You will first need to determine if this is bullying. You can ask two simple questions. One, is it happening with regular occurrence. And two, is it adversely impacting my child in ways such as showing signs of depression or withdrawing from activities. If either of these answers is yes, then you are looking at some type of bullying. If you are lucky enough to have your child come to you, you do not want to invalidate your child’s concerns. Do not tell your child that this is normal behavior or part of growing up. In today’s society, the consequences are very serious for both the victim and the bully and should not be ignored.

Many parents worry that they will make the situation worse by seeking help. If your child has come to you, then you can assume that it is already a painful and negative experience. The reality is that bullying is being tolerated less and less by both schools and law enforcement. You will want to ensure that your child is not on social media sites that are breeding grounds for bullying. ASK.FM is the number one bullying site among teenagers because it allows users to post things on other users’ accounts anonymously. This has resulted in very dangerous and hurtful comments being made to users. Your child should not be using this site under any circumstances.

Finally, follow your gut and seek advice and help. Screen print any and all instances of the bullying. This will eliminate ‘he said/she said’ discussions should you decide to confront the bully, the bully’s parents or any type of authority with the problem. And above all, support your child through this very painful and challenging experience.

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What Is Sextortion?

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Detective Rich Wistocki
High Technology Crimes Unit
Naperville Police Department
1350 Aurora Avenue
Naperville, IL 60540
(630) 305-5384

 

What is Sextortion?

 Sextortion is defined as when a child is talking to whom they believe is another child on a variety of social media and they exchange risqué photos that are not sexting.  The extorter then uses that risqué photo to extort your child to send a sexual picture, telling them that if they don’t comply the risqué photo will be sent to their entire contact list.  The child is often afraid to tell their parents, fearing consequences, and so complies with the request for a sexual picture.

Do not allow your child to become involved with sextortion. Open communication with your child by having a conversation.  Let them know that if someone wants them to do something that they don’t feel comfortable with online they need to come to you without any consequences.

The Golden Ticket – explain that if someone makes your child uncomfortable, instead of doing something they will regret later, they need to work through it with you.  This opens the door to good communication with your child when they are online or on their cell phone.  It is very important that your child can trust you to make a good decision.

Being popular on social media is everything to a child. Understand this and the types of software available for monitoring their online activities.

 

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What Should Parents Know About Social Media?

ANSWER:

Detective Rich Wistocki
High Technology Crimes Unit
Naperville Police Department
1350 Aurora Avenue
Naperville, IL 60540
(630) 305-5384

What Should Parents Know About Social Media?

Before allowing your children on social media, a conversation needs to take place. Children must be told that you want access to social media and parents must have all screen names and passwords so they can enter the sites whenever they want to. It is important to have this conversation because predators are out there. It is up to you, as the parent, to monitor your child any time they are on the computer or cell phone.

The biggest misconception parents have is that “my children’s privacy is at stake”. There is no such thing as child and privacy. You are responsible for your children so it is incumbent upon you to monitor and make sure your children have a safe journey through the internet.

It is a matter of having communication with your children. If you say “Oh, my child would never do that”- when you start thinking this and start accepting that philosophy it is time to check.

You must grow up with your child through technology.Monitoring software is available for android phones. iPhones cannot be monitored. The biggest mistake parents make is to allow children to charge their devices in their room at night. Put them on the kitchen counter – do not let them take them to their room.

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How Do I Stop My Child From Being Bullied?

ANSWER:

Julie Nelson-Kuna, PhD, LLC
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
800 W. 5th Avenue
Naperville, Il  Suite 101B
(331) 472-7313; drjulienelsonkuna.com

 

How Do I Stop My Child From Being Bullied?

The bully narrative presented in popular media today has told a story of suicide
by bullying. Parents are reassured that, while bullying can be a risk factor for
depression and mental health challenges, it is not a straight line from bullying to
suicide. Even one friend can provide a buffer against a child being bullied. Parents
are encouraged to keep talking to their children about their experiences in school
and on-line, and be empowered to set limits with both types of socializing. Empathy
is cultivated through experiences with face-to-face communication, and it is critical
to developing a social climate that doesn’t promote bullying behavior. There is
a concern that increasing our media consumption, has led to less face-to-face
socializing, and parents can facilitate the development of empathy in their children
by prioritizing face-to-face communication in their family.

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My child is in Junior High and I think he’s being bullied. How can I help him?

ANSWER:

Adam Russo, LCSW
Chairman & CEO Edgewood Clinical Services
2948 Artesian Rd, Suite 112
Naperville, IL 60564
p: 630.428.7890 ext. 303
f: 630.428.7891
http://www.edgewoodclinicalservices.com
http://facebook.com/edgewoodclinicalservices

• Determining severity of bullying
• Building your child’s self-confidence
• Leadership development
• Assistance from schools with bullying
• Supporting your child when they are being bullied

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How do I help my child deal with the stress of living in a very competitive and materialistic community?

ANSWER:

Dan Peterson, MS LCPC
Advanced Trainer for The Nurtured Heart Approach
Owner of The Compass 4 Life
445 W Jackson, Naperville
 

1. Treatment for Anxiety, perfectionism, depression, and stress in children and adolescents
2. Bullying
3. Drug and alcohol use in teenagers
4. How to help your child or student deal with competition and improve their self esteem

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