Cheryl Frommelt MS LCPC LMFT
Clinical Director, Fox Valley Institute for Growth and Wellness
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor
Fox Valley Institute for Growth and Wellness
640 N. River Rd. Suite 108
Naperville, IL 60563
(630) 718-0717 x 210
How Do You Help Your Teen Manage Peer Pressure in High School or College?
Peers naturally influence our teen’s lives. The influence can be either positive or negative in nature. It is human nature to listen to and learn from
others in their age group. As kids get older, in high school and college, negative peer pressure can get in the way academically, behaviorally or
Let’s discuss 5 ways to help your teen manage peer pressure in high school
1. Encourage your child to take part in positive activities with positive
people that they can feel good about.
2. Listen to your child when they talk to you about peer situations. Don’t
overreact, lecture, shame or blame them.
3. Teach your child to foresee potential situations that may lead to trouble
and role-play saying “no”.
4. Get to know your child’s friends.
5. Develop a back-up plan when your child is in a situation they can’t handle.
Neuqua Valley High School
What are the expectations/goals of the Child?
ATHLETES work with your Coach in setting reasonable goals and acknowledge that goals are achieved over time. Focus on only what you can control, do your best and have no regrets. Enjoy the experience.
Parents communicate with your child about his/ her goals. This will help to avoid unrealistic expectations that are different from your child. The lack of communication and or extra pressure of unrealistic performance or season expectations can make the season very stressful and unproductive. Student athletes know their role on the team and what is expected of them. Support your child by encouraging him/her to do their best and be proud of their best efforts. Do not compare your child to other players. Do not use playing time, statistics or words in a newspaper or lack of in qualifying your son’s/ daughter’s experience.
Approach sports as an opportunity / experience for your child to get close to a group of people, build friendships, develop skills, improve fitness, learn discipline, how to manage adversity and how to work towards personal goals. These experiences carry over to real life. If the purpose of playing sports is to get a D1 scholarship, then the end result could be disappointing and the student be clouded to all the benefits that sports have to offer.
Participation in sports allows individuals to see what they are made of and how they will react to different situations. How an athlete manages the ups and downs of emotions, stress, time management, accountability in working with others, etc…
Sport can bring the best and the worse out of individuals. If a student athlete is being encouraged and supported to work through challenges this will allow him/her to enjoy their experience greater and grow as a person.
Neil Gorman, MSW, LCSW
Edgewood Clinical Services
2948 Artesian Rd, Suite 112
Naperville, IL 60564
While often overlooked, the importance of simply being a receptive listener can help increase a child’s motivation. Listening is especially important when a parent has asked a question. Frequently it is very tempting to interrupt a child answering a question we have asked, however motivation can be significantly decreased by interruption.
In addition to this it is very important for parents who are listening to remember that there’s going to be much about their child’s experience on which they are not experts, but one of the best ways to become more informed as to listen to the child speak.